Reflections by Tim Thornton, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Sydney.
Feeling stuck is one of the most uncomfortable states a person can be in. It feels like failure. Like time is passing and we’re somehow doing it all wrong. We look around, and everyone else seems to be moving forward, making decisions, building lives, while we feel paused in place.
But what if being stuck is not the problem?
A transition without a name
What we call stuck is often a transition without a clear name. It’s a liminal place. One version of us no longer works, but the next hasn’t fully taken shape yet. Old goals feel empty. Old motivations no longer pull us forward. Yet nothing new has fully claimed us either.
That gap feels frightening because it is unfamiliar.
Modern life has no tolerance for this phase.
We admire progress, reinvention and momentum. We do not admire the uncertainty. We expect people to move smoothly from one chapter to the next, as if growth should be efficient and uninterrupted.
In reality, meaningful change almost always brings periods of confusion, slowdowns, and loss of direction. This is why advice can feel useless at these times. We are told to push harder, stay positive, make a decision, or choose something. But you can’t always force transitions. Pressure does not create clarity.
Sometimes what we need is space, patience, and the courage to sit in a state of not knowing.
Recalibration, not laziness
When we are between versions of ourselves, our energy changes. Urgency fades. Drive softens. Things that once mattered no longer hold the same power.
That is not necessarily laziness. It can be recalibration—a quiet process of deciding what still deserves our effort and our energy.
Many people rush through this phase. They cling to old patterns, familiar roles, or borrowed ambitions to avoid the discomfort of the uncertainty they feel. They mistake motion for growth, and stability for truth. But rushing through this stage can mean continuing to live a life that no longer fits.
Growth does not always look like forward movement.
Sometimes growth looks like stillness. Sometimes it looks like doubt. Sometimes it means stepping back so that something real can eventually take its place.
If we feel stuck, perhaps we can consider something gentler. What if we are not lost at all, but unfinished? What if this pause isn’t a failure, but the quiet, liminal space where a truer version of ourselves is being formed?
If this is where you are
Working with the stuck feeling is not about forcing a decision. It is about meeting the transition honestly and giving it the time it needs. Hypnotherapy for stress and anxiety is one of the areas I work in regularly, and much of that work is holding space for exactly this phase.
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This post reflects on a common human experience in therapy practice. Hypnotherapy is a complementary approach and not a substitute for medical or psychological treatment where that is indicated. Individual results vary.
