Self-esteem and hurt feelings
Say a five-year-old child breaks their arm through sport; as an adult, that person can never recall the physical pain. But if that same child is subjected to regular unkind words, bulling or the like, they can and often do remember the events. And whats more they can still ‘feel’ the emotional pain too. Through our life events, the associated feelings, self-esteem is either strengthened or weakened. Self-esteem begins to develop in the early childhood – or not. In early childhood, parents, and siblings lay the foundations for their child’s healthy self-esteem by accepting them emotionally and taking their needs seriously. Almost everyone who has confidence issues has been rejected, criticised or ridiculed by their teachers, parents or family in some way. Parents who can not give, or did not give their children emotional acceptance are a prime cause a sense of inferiority in their child. The feeling of inferiority characterises the child’s self-image. Through the negative inner perception of oneself, those affected are more susceptible to further injuries caused by other people. Often, a tendency to overwork and a strive for external valuation arises to compensate for the lack of self-worth.
This can be undone with hypnosis, it takes time, it’s a process. Our memories seem crystallised in our mind, but they can be altered and repaired.
Self-confidence and childhood memories
A classic component of confidence issues is a reactivation of hurt feelings from the childhood. Clients report that they are suddenly put back into negative feelings from their childhood in certain situations. Typically, the affected persons suddenly feels small, helpless, or inferior. Although they often can see themselves that they are overreacting to a certain situation.
Some clients even say they literally feel like a little child again in a certain situation. Triggers for emotional reactivation are people or situations which have a certain resemblance to their childhood. These so-called similarity stimuli reactivates negative childhood feelings in adults. In a nutshell, one could say that those affected suffer from unprocessed childish emotions that are stimulated by certain situations.
Strictly speaking, the feeling that comes back in people with low self-esteem is already a form of trance. The mind is strongly inhibited in the short term, while the old, childish feeling gains the upper hand and determines the reaction. Therefore, the solution of such feelings can not go beyond the mind, but must always go beyond the feeling itself. Hypnosis for confidence can help you to change your feelings.
Negative beliefs often accompany those affected by low self-esteem their whole life. In many cases, they prevent people from living fulfilled partnerships or professionally developing their full potential. Sometimes my clients look at me confused when I say, “Your belief is not your problem at all. It is the feeling hidden behind the negative belief “All the beliefs that we carry within us are the expression of emotions that are responsible for self-assessment. If they are positive, the beliefs are the same – and vice versa.